End of Life Ceremonies

Ethel widowA Humanist funeral or memorial service is truly a celebration of the life lived. Each service is as unique as the individual whose life we celebrate. I will work with you to create a ceremony of remembrance that honors your loved one and meets your needs. If you have recently suffered the loss of a family member or friend, please accept my sincere condolences and my offer of support. I understand that you may be operating on a very tight schedule. Please feel free to contact me directly via email or phone at (763) 486-9916 to discuss your ceremony needs. A Celebrant-led service allows you to honor your loved one, recognize their legacy, and say your final good-byes in a way that reflects their values and priorities as well as yours. Each of these elements is important and should be considered when defining the service.

Comforting, Honest, Moving, Respectful

Memorial services informed by Humanist core values and principles…sky lantern
    … are secular in nature and non-denominational in form and content, thus placing focus on the deceased and promoting healing.
    … may include music, readings, special rituals and anything which reflects the honoree’s life story and wishes.
    … can take various forms and may be held in whatever setting is most meaningful to the participants.
  The death of a loved one is a stressful time for family and friends. As your celebrant I facilitate by creating a meaningful observance that honors the deceased while supporting and attending to the needs of the living. The service may be pre-planned or designed through consultation with family or friends after the death. I will gather stories and a life history to create a meaningful memorial service that honors the unique personality and interests of your loved one, and the ways in which he or she touched your lives. cloisters 2You will decide: The venue – funeral home, mausoleum, cemetery, or non-traditional venues including a restaurant, hall or family home. The style of the ceremony – simple or elaborate, traditional or contemporary, performed exclusively by the celebrant or including family members and friends. The timing of the ceremony – immediately after the passing of the loved one, or at a later date of your choosing.   Celebrations of life can even take place before death – a living funeral can enable you to say goodbye and mark the coming of the end, in community with your loved ones. I would be honored to create a remembrance of a loved one through a farewell ceremony. Please contact me to discuss:
  • Funeral ceremonies
  • Memorials
  • Ash scatterings
  • Stillbirth or miscarriage ceremonies
  • Green funerals
  • Living farewells
  • Personal histories / Eulogies
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Why We Need Funerals

Funerals and memorial services are important rites of passage. They gather the mourners in and help them relate to each other’s loss as well as their own. Read more…
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The Family Meeting

Many people find that the family meeting is one of the most helpful and healing facets of a celebrant’s services. Read more…
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Funeral or Memorial?

There are several different types and variations of farewell ceremonies. I am happy to help you make the best choice for your loved one’s remembrance. Read more…

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My youngest son with my beloved grandfather, a few months before his death.

Memorial services were a primary motivation for me to become a Humanist Celebrant. I see providing a secular option for those who are grieving or have suffered loss as a service to my community. Many of us have experienced the imposition of religious ideology onto an already raw and sensitive situation with hurtful, rather than healing, results.  A secular ceremony provides an opportunity for those of diverse backgrounds and beliefs to focus on the person commemorated in the ceremony, and to celebrate the special place they had in the hearts of those in attendance.